Dear Juno, or any other teenager in a similar situation,
With regard to how all of this started in the first place, I think that the decision you and Bleeker made was irresponsible. In addition to the always-available option of not doing it at all, there are numerous resources that are available to you, which are probably readily available at the local drugstore or pharmacy. That being said, I know sometimes the education relating to this isn't always as thorough as it should be. Nevertheless, I think you could gain some idea of the results of your actions from something (TV shows, friends, etc...). At the beginning, it seemed evident that you weren't particularly bashful or reluctant to conduct multiple pregnancy tests, so I don't think that embarrassment should have been a major obstacle for you. However, in the end it is your decision and the discussion regarding your subsequent actions still stands.
In the course of your pregnancy and immediately thereafter, I think you exercised a great deal of maturity and thoughtfulness and accepted a considerable amount of responsibility. I am glad that you lived it out with conviction and commitment and didn't "take the easy way out." I admit that I think it would probably entail some unwelcome circumstances, such as people gossiping and feeling physically (and emotionally) uncomfortable. Your determination to keep it and give it to Vanessa prompted feelings of respect and admiration (at least for me).
Personally, I would probably say that it would be best to plan a family- would probably include somethings along the lines of having a stable household, steady income, emotional readiness, etc... However, I know that life can be unexpected and sometimes you just have to take it for what it is.
Although I can't ever imagine myself doing what you did under said circumstances, I would like to think that if I was in your shoes I would do the same thing you ended up doing, which is no small feat.
Although I feel that in the case such as yours (where there was perhaps irresponsibility involved, in my opinion) and that you (and Bleeker) should deal with the "consequences" of your actions (carrying the baby to term), it does not diminish the way you carried it out (in essence, I think you dealt with the situation in the best way and deserves some respect and/or recognition). I think what you ended up doing is very commendable. I wish you the best.
With regard to how all of this started in the first place, I think that the decision you and Bleeker made was irresponsible. In addition to the always-available option of not doing it at all, there are numerous resources that are available to you, which are probably readily available at the local drugstore or pharmacy. That being said, I know sometimes the education relating to this isn't always as thorough as it should be. Nevertheless, I think you could gain some idea of the results of your actions from something (TV shows, friends, etc...). At the beginning, it seemed evident that you weren't particularly bashful or reluctant to conduct multiple pregnancy tests, so I don't think that embarrassment should have been a major obstacle for you. However, in the end it is your decision and the discussion regarding your subsequent actions still stands.
In the course of your pregnancy and immediately thereafter, I think you exercised a great deal of maturity and thoughtfulness and accepted a considerable amount of responsibility. I am glad that you lived it out with conviction and commitment and didn't "take the easy way out." I admit that I think it would probably entail some unwelcome circumstances, such as people gossiping and feeling physically (and emotionally) uncomfortable. Your determination to keep it and give it to Vanessa prompted feelings of respect and admiration (at least for me).
Personally, I would probably say that it would be best to plan a family- would probably include somethings along the lines of having a stable household, steady income, emotional readiness, etc... However, I know that life can be unexpected and sometimes you just have to take it for what it is.
Although I can't ever imagine myself doing what you did under said circumstances, I would like to think that if I was in your shoes I would do the same thing you ended up doing, which is no small feat.
Although I feel that in the case such as yours (where there was perhaps irresponsibility involved, in my opinion) and that you (and Bleeker) should deal with the "consequences" of your actions (carrying the baby to term), it does not diminish the way you carried it out (in essence, I think you dealt with the situation in the best way and deserves some respect and/or recognition). I think what you ended up doing is very commendable. I wish you the best.
Sincerely,
Evelyn S.